๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐, ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐บ๐ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐น๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ผ๐ผ๐๐ฒ. Had to choose between loving a woman and having a family. As if I couldnโt have both.
They were wrong.
The process isnโt quite what I envisioned when I was younger. There are tests and monitoring that need to be done. There are nurses and doctors involved. Iโll be the first one to admit, itโs not as easy as I thought it would be. (Check out my stories on IG for how we picked our donor).
Kim and I started trying to grow our family in March. Sadly, both of my IUIs were unsuccessful. On June 1st we decided to switch to IVF.
My companyโs insurance changed and I no longer need to try IUI six times before insurance would cover IVF. Yep, you read that right, if you are a same sex couple, most insurances make you try IUI SIX TIMES! Keep in mind, every IUI can cost THOUSANDS of dollars! I canโt begin to tell you how grateful I am. Or frankly how thankful our bank accounts are.
Because I have always wanted to be a mom. I have always wanted to carry a child. We are just like any other couple struggling to conceive. I donโt deserve to be a mother any less just because I married a woman.
๐ฆ๐ผ ๐๐ผ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐ง๐ค+ ๐๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐๐บ:
Your love is valid.
Having a family is possible.
No matter how you chose to grow oneโฆ
Your family is valid.
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐น๐ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐?
by the amazing LGBTQ+ photographer and BFFย @jodijhutton
